Breakup Healing
How to Get Over Him: A Plan for the First 30 Days
A week-by-week plan for getting over him: what to do in the first three days, how to handle missing him, and what usually shifts by day 30 of no contact.
9 min read
Breakup recovery, for the hard moments
Stop texting your ex.Start choosing yourself.
When it's 2am and you're about to text them, write it in Heal instead. It never sends. Then get through the urge with an AI coach and a no contact tracker.
Free to start on iOS and AndroidSee inside the app
Sound familiar?
You know you shouldn't text them. But you can't stop thinking about it.
It's 2am. You've had a few drinks. You're scrolling through old photos. Your thumb hovers over their name.
You know it won't help. You know you'll regret it. But the urge is overwhelming.
- You've broken no contact more times than you can count
- Late nights are the hardest - that's when you're weakest
- Everyone says "just move on" but nobody tells you HOW
- You're tired of feeling stuck in this pain
- You want to heal, but you don't know where to start
You're not weak. You're human. And you deserve support.
Today
A calm place to start each day
Days without contact, how far it is to your next milestone, and where you are on the path, in one quiet screen. Then a one-tap check-in and a small step for the day.
- An honest clock: a slip resets the streak, never your total
- Milestones worth celebrating, from day 1 to a whole year
- What's normal in the phase you're in right now
SOS
When the urge hits, one tap
SOS sits in the middle of the app, always in reach. Name what's happening, breathe for a minute, then pick what would help. It takes about as long as typing the message you were about to send.
1Name it
2Breathe
3Pick what helps
4Check in
However it goes
“You rode it out. That's exactly how this gets easier.”
And if you didn't, Heal doesn't scold you. Tap “I did it anyway” and it says what's true: no judgement here, it's one moment, not the whole story. Slips are part of recovery. Coming back is the part that counts.
Progress
See how far you've come, and what's ahead
Where you are on the path and what's normal there, the phase that comes next, and every day without contact laid out square by square. Slips show up in context, next to all the days around them.
- Five phases, from the first days to moving forward
- How your urges ended, and which tool helps you most
- Mood, milestones and your hardest times, from what you log
What's inside
Meet your 24/7 breakup recovery companion
Heal catches you in your weakest moments and helps you heal instead of hurting yourself more.
Fake Texting
Write the message you want to send your ex - but instead of sending it, our AI talks you through why you want to reach out. Get the relief of venting without the regret of actually texting them.
No-Contact Tracker
See how many days you've stayed strong. Celebrate milestones. Understand that every day without contact is a day of choosing yourself.
AI Coach (Available 24/7)
Choose your tone: Supportive, Direct, or Empathetic. Get real-time guidance when you're spiraling. No judgment. No therapist fees. Just help when you need it most.
Your Path, Phase by Phase
From the first days to moving forward, Heal shows where you are and what's normal right now - so the hard parts make sense.
Private Journal
Dump your thoughts, track your progress, process your emotions. Your words stay private - never shared, never judged.
Breathing & Calm
When panic hits at 3am, calm your nervous system with guided exercises designed for heartbreak.
From people who've been there
Real people. Real healing.
“I was about to text my ex for the 100th time. This app stopped me.”
“Finally, something that actually understands what I'm going through at night.”
“The fake texting feature saved me from so many regrets.”
How it works
Four small steps
- 1
Tell us your story
When did the breakup happen? When did you last contact them? We personalize everything to your journey.
- 2
Get support when you need it
Open the app when you're struggling. Use fake texting to vent. Talk to the AI coach. Journal your feelings.
- 3
Track your progress
Watch your no-contact days grow. Move through the phases of recovery. See yourself getting stronger.
- 4
Choose yourself, every day
Healing isn't linear. Some days are harder than others. We're here for all of them.
Why now?
The first 90 days after a breakup are the hardest.
Every therapist will tell you: no contact is crucial for healing. But knowing what to do and actually doing it are two different things.
That's where we come in.
We don't just tell you "don't text your ex." We help you NOT text your ex - in the moment when it matters most.
Pricing
Start free. Stay if it helps.
Start free
Free
Download Heal: No Contact & Breakup free on iOS or Android. The core tools stay free, and you can try everything free for 7 days.
- No contact tracker and SOS button
- 5 AI coach messages a day
- Private journal and mood tracking
- 7-day free trial of everything
Heal Premium
$12.99/month
Or $124.99 a year. No commitment. Cancel anytime.
- Unlimited AI coach messages
- Unlimited fake texting
- Streak Protection
- Every healing practice
Upgrade inside the app
Guide
Should you text your ex?
Stop guessing and spiraling. We've built the ultimate decision-making framework to help you decide if reaching out is a good idea—or a huge mistake.
Read the guideBefore you hit send
Anxiety or necessity?Is this about logistics, or about the feeling?
The 24-hour ruleIf it still matters tomorrow, it can wait until then.
Test before you sendWrite the fake text first and see how it feels.
From the blog
Healing Wisdom
Real advice for real heartbreak. No toxic positivity, just honest guidance from people who've been there.
No Contact
No Contact Day 1: What to Expect and How to Get Through It
The first day of no contact is less about willpower and more about setup. Here's what day 1 usually feels like, and the few things that make the next 24 hours survivable.
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No Contact
No Contact Day 14: Why It Still Hurts at Two Weeks
Two weeks into no contact, the urges are usually quieter, but the memories, the 'what ifs' and the loneliness can get louder. Here's what day 14 is like and what helps.
8 min read
Questions
Frequently asked questions
Is Heal free?
Yes. Heal is free to download, and the core tools stay free, including the no contact tracker, the SOS button and 5 AI coach messages a day. Heal Premium ($12.99 a month or $124.99 a year) adds unlimited coach messages, unlimited fake texting and Streak Protection, and you can try it free for 7 days.
Is my data private?
Yes. Your journal entries, messages, and personal information never leave your device except for AI processing (which is encrypted). We never sell your data. Ever.
Do I need to talk to a real person?
Nope. The AI coach is available 24/7. No scheduling, no awkward video calls, no judgment. Just support when you need it.
What if I break no contact?
That's okay. Healing isn't linear. The app helps you understand why it happened and get back on track. No shame, just support.
Does this replace therapy?
No. This isn't a replacement for therapy. If you need immediate emotional support, visit findahelpline.com to connect with local helplines, and talk to a professional.
Can my ex see what I write in the app?
Absolutely not. Everything is private. The fake texting feature never actually sends - it's just for you to process your feelings.
What if I want my ex back?
We focus on YOUR healing first. Whether you eventually reconnect or move on completely, you need to heal yourself first. That's what we help with.
We are here for you
Need to talk to someone on the team?
Whether you have product questions, need help getting unstuck, or just want to share feedback, we will get back to you as soon as possible.
Email support
Send us a note at healletgo@proton.me and we will respond within 24 hours—usually much faster.
Email the teamIn-app contact form
Tap Support → Contact Us in the Heal app to send a message without leaving your healing flow. We will follow up right in your inbox.
- Share context about your journey or account
- Attach screenshots of anything that looks off
- Expect a personal response within hours
Ready to stop the cycle?
Download Heal and get the support you need when the urge to text hits hardest.