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Your holiday survival plan
Pick the days you're dreading. We'll give you a short plan for each one, so you're not deciding what to do at 11:58pm on New Year's Eve.
Your plan
You've got this, one day at a time.
Save it somewhere you'll see it on the day. Put the dates in your calendar and you'll get a nudge the morning of.
For the moment it hits
If you're about to type their name anyway, write the text in our free unsent text tool. It never sends. In the Heal app, the no contact tracker keeps counting right through the holidays, and the SOS button gets you through the next ten minutes. Free to start.
Get Heal for the holidaysWhy plan the holidays after a breakup?
Because the hard moments are predictable. The question at the dinner table. The quiet hour on Christmas Eve. Midnight on New Year's Eve with a drink in your hand. You know roughly when the urge to text them will hit, so you can decide what you'll do before you're in it, when it's much easier.
Our guide to getting through the holidays after a breakup walks through the season from Thanksgiving to New Year's Day. This tool turns that into a plan for your own dates.
Is anything saved?
No. Your plan is built in this tab and isn't sent to us. The calendar file is made on your device. We only count that someone made a plan, never what's in it.
What if the plan doesn't hold?
Then you're human. One text isn't the end of no contact. Our guide on what to do if you broke no contact covers the next morning. And if you're not sure whether to reach out at all, the 2-minute quiz can help you decide in daylight.
FAQ: Holiday plans after a breakup
Why make a holiday plan after a breakup?
The urge to text an ex is strongest at predictable moments: the quiet hour after dinner, midnight, the morning of a day you used to share. Deciding what you'll do before you get there is much easier than deciding in the moment.
Is anything I type saved or sent?
No. Your plan is built in this browser tab. It isn't stored or sent to us. The calendar file is made on your device and only goes where you open it.
What should I say when family asks about my ex?
One short, true sentence and a change of subject works for most people. For example: "We broke up. I'm okay, and I'd rather not go into it today." You don't owe anyone the full story at the dinner table.
What if I break my plan and text them?
Then you texted them. It isn't a reset to zero. Don't send a second message to explain the first, and pick the plan back up the next day.